Child’s Play or NOT! :(

I don’t have the answers but I have a question.

How does one incorporate a child with a physical disability into the school yard play? I think this is the plight of childhood disability; isolation is an issue that no matter how hard one tries they can’t make other children to include the differently-abled child in their game.  I remember during elementary school there was some school-wide outdoor event the details of which I don’t remember but what I do remember is the photo. A photo that day was taken from the roof of the school. There are small clusters of children participating in whatever the day’s event were, and off to the side sitting alone in a pink wheelchair is a little girl. I was and still have my moments of social invisibility the only reason I am even reliving this, is to help my little man monkey, and mom Jo who I know struggles with what is life going to be like for her child. There are moments such as the one illustrated above that despite the best efforts of the adults in my life still happened. You know what? Looking back, and even now as I still mildly face isolation I wouldn’t change any of it for the world. I embrace my cerebral palsy to the fullest. Sure there were moments and frequently during college that I would be home alone on a Friday night. This isn’t to say that people dislike me; it’s just again how does one include me and my wheelchair into an evening out? My life isn’t lonely but it is isolating because people don’t think that they can transport me and all the stuff that that means like the wheelchair. Instead of asking me to meet them somewhere I just simply don’t get asked. Which, is probably why I am able to spend my days blogging.  I spend hours online daily I wouldn’t if I was busier. I am unemployed at the moment and am volunteering but seriously folks. That isn’t to say I don’t have friends, because I do. The majority of my close friends well the ones I hang with regularly are disabled too. Am I unhappy? No certainly not, I am just being realistic.

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Laura Forde founded her blog through my eyes: my life with cerebral palsy in December 2009 out of a great need she had, realizing that there was a vast gap in firsthand accounts of what life was like living with Cerebral Palsy: she knew then that the only way to see this reflected online was to create the change herself and thus this blog was born Laura was born four months premature, weighing a mere one pound three ounces and given ten percent odds for survival. She was diagnosed with cerebral palsy at the age of three. After graduating from college, she continued writing and doing what she loves to do most; speaking to groups about her life experiences and sharing what she has learned from her journey. Her blog lifeofthedifferentlyabled was created after discovering that the online community lacked the voice of people in her situation. In its first year, the site saw over 20,000 hits from all over the world. Her readers are from all walks of life; some with disabilities, parents of children, professionals, and others who seek to gain a better understanding of the world of the differently abled. You can follow her on Twitter or Facebook
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8 Responses to Child’s Play or NOT! :(

  1. Adelaide Dupont says:

    It’s definitely one thing being left out of children’s games, but it’s another being left out of an official school activity.

    For the record, 20 years ago and more, I had a mate named Paul. It’s good to think of him as the school year begins. He often seemed to be included: especially with the girls! Paul has spastic cerebral palsy, and we don’t know about the hemi part.

    Writer in a Wheelchair (Emma from Oxford) talks about her going out and how accessible it is or not. At least she did on her WordPress blog; the ones I remember were from a few years ago.

  2. Mara Kaplan says:

    It is my goal to eliminate the isolation by making sure that play environments are not just ADA complaint, but actually usable.

    • YAY thanks mara I hope you enjoy my blog please pass it along! ps what does the ADA guidelines in brief look like in terms of playgrounds?

      • Adelaide Dupont says:

        In my part of the world, too, there are All Abilities playgrounds which kids and adults can really enjoy.

        They are usually in central locations.

        The swings are wide, so people in wheelchairs can enjoy them. It is usually known as the Liberty Swing.

  3. Thanks so much for this! Monkey is able to keep up with his peers in many ways (he’s a rather sporty little guy, all things considered), but there are times when he can’t. A particularly awful ordeal with his leg last year when he was four (he had terrible spasticity in his foot due to a growth spurt that was only made worse by tendonitis) left him really unable to keep up for a few weeks. He dealt with it by using his charisma to draw the other kids to the sandbox, where he could easily play with them. Still, not one of the three teachers in his preschool class did anything to help the situation. What a world of difference it would have made if his teachers had made an effort to include him in activities other than the sandbox – not only for Monkey Boy, but for his friends, so they would learn how easily people with different abilities can and should be included.
    I still have no idea what Monkey Boy’s future holds, but I hope he continues to have a “can do” attitude similar to yours. Again, thank you so much for all your help.

    • Adelaide Dupont says:

      Charisma is great, as it does draw kids to you.

      What sports does Monkey Boy enjoy?

      • Adelaide, thanks for your comment! Monkey currently plays on a “typical” ice hockey team (it’s a beginner/Learn To Play team so it’s not that competitive yet) and keeps up well with the other kids. He also enjoys baseball, soccer, yoga, and would like to try rugby when he’s older. In addition, he is going to soon begin taking swimming and martial arts lessons. He may not do everything the way other children do them, but he almost always finds a way that works for him.

      • Adelaide Dupont says:

        Finding a way which works is so important!

        It reminds people that there’s not one way to work, and that everybody’s bodies work differently.

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