The flip side of personal care attendants

You will remember my post everything she does is beautiful from a while back. Today I’d like to talk about the flip side of personal care attendants. Things don’t always go right. I have been lucky, and this post isn’t really about focusing on the negative aspects; but rather the different aspects of personal care.

The perception of personal care is that the caregiver’s role is only to give physical care. For me, the care they give should be a collaboration of caring for my physical body, mind, and spirit. In other words, as much as they act as my arms and legs I feel their primary function is to get me out in to the community. I have been lucky that the agency that I use take the same approach. I call this approach the holistic approach. So, what does the holistic approach mean for the client? The following three things will be outlined in the rest of this post:

  • freedom to choose
  • the sense of control in the decisions about one’s life
  • the ability to see the world through travel

Freedom to Choose

I think that this is perhaps one of the hardest parts of the job for some attendants. I like working with the younger attendant because I feel I relate better, and there is less of a chance to feel like I am working with someone who is “mothering me” the most annoying thing is being told what to do and how to do it, if someone treats me as an equal they have a better chance of sticking with me for the long haul.

The younger attendant also understands the need for me to have as much control as possible with regards to what I eat, how I dress, when I shower, etc. all things that able-bodied people take for granted. I live my life on a schedule so I would like as much freedom to choose that schedule as possible; it’s hard enough to be spontaneous so having the flexibility to be as flexible as possible is nice.

The Sense of Control in the Decisions about One’s Life

As I alluded to earlier as a client you want as much personal independence as possible. This may even mean inappropriate choices in nutrition etc. despite attendants wanting to say something i.e. you should eat healthier; it is really not their place to say anything. If I choose to eat chocolate for breakfast it’s my choice despite the potential health risks I am imposing on my well-being. The attendants role is not to act as a parent teaching right and wrong especially considering they are often dealing with highly educated people who happen to have a physical limitation.

The Ability to See the World through Travel

I’ve had the ability to travel as an adult free of my parents and family thanks to attendants. Although, my trips to date have only been day trips, this will allow me to see the world when I decide to venture further afield. It’s nice to have the ability to see the world outside the four walls of your home. I pride myself in utilizing my attendants beyond personal care and using them to integrate more fully into my community both on a local level and maybe in future through travel. If I could make a career of blogging and public speaking I think that is where I would be happiest. This is a long post, thank you for sticking with me, more tomorrow.

Peace and happiness to all!

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Laura Forde founded her blog through my eyes: my life with cerebral palsy in December 2009 out of a great need she had, realizing that there was a vast gap in firsthand accounts of what life was like living with Cerebral Palsy: she knew then that the only way to see this reflected online was to create the change herself and thus this blog was born Laura was born four months premature, weighing a mere one pound three ounces and given ten percent odds for survival. She was diagnosed with cerebral palsy at the age of three. After graduating from college, she continued writing and doing what she loves to do most; speaking to groups about her life experiences and sharing what she has learned from her journey. Her blog lifeofthedifferentlyabled was created after discovering that the online community lacked the voice of people in her situation. In its first year, the site saw over 20,000 hits from all over the world. Her readers are from all walks of life; some with disabilities, parents of children, professionals, and others who seek to gain a better understanding of the world of the differently abled. You can follow her on Twitter or Facebook
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One Response to The flip side of personal care attendants

  1. Adelaide Dupont says:

    Emma from Oxford has often written about her personal care attendants.

    “The attendants role is not to act as a parent teaching right and wrong especially considering they are often dealing with highly educated people who happen to have a physical limitation.”

    Especially when the person already has parents that they have separated from for some reason.

    And “The Ability to Travel” has covered a lot.

    Erin from New Zealand was recently able to use this freedom on her trip to Japan.

    Cheese Chalk and CP: It’s the Little Things

    May remind you of some of your uni experiences.

    I imagine that a lot of personal care attendants will be reading this post. There are a lot of ads for attendant carers and their role.

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