What Would You Say To This Little Boy?

This post comes from a post that I read over on monkey boy’s blog earlier this week.  The comment I wrote over there was not put there to create a dramatic feeling, it was the truth. The words described in vivid imagery for both of us, left me speechless, and my roommate in tears.

Jo monkey’s mom wrote about how a raring to go driver was honking at her son. Her son was trying to cross a parking lot as quickly yet safely as he could.  When they did get safely across the lot, Monkey asked Jo in tears what he should have done differently.   

I recognize the kindness of others, whose efforts to help sometimes can be overdone.  I also know that the very meaning of cerebral palsy should be that things are done differently. And admittedly differently at times can mean at a slower speed then one’s peers.

To monkey my point is do your best. Not everyone is going to like what you do or how fast or slow you take to do it.  I have realized that I am probably going to be slower than most to do things. The things that come easily and probably naturally to others, most likely will not be as natural for me. Those very same things will and often take us more physical efforts and in turn more time.


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Laura Forde founded her blog through my eyes: my life with cerebral palsy in December 2009 out of a great need she had, realizing that there was a vast gap in firsthand accounts of what life was like living with Cerebral Palsy: she knew then that the only way to see this reflected online was to create the change herself and thus this blog was born Laura was born four months premature, weighing a mere one pound three ounces and given ten percent odds for survival. She was diagnosed with cerebral palsy at the age of three. After graduating from college, she continued writing and doing what she loves to do most; speaking to groups about her life experiences and sharing what she has learned from her journey. Her blog lifeofthedifferentlyabled was created after discovering that the online community lacked the voice of people in her situation. In its first year, the site saw over 20,000 hits from all over the world. Her readers are from all walks of life; some with disabilities, parents of children, professionals, and others who seek to gain a better understanding of the world of the differently abled. You can follow her on Twitter or Facebook
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4 Responses to What Would You Say To This Little Boy?

  1. Kate says:

    Hi Laura, I agree that this story is very moving, and it is disappointing to me that someone would react in such a way, especially to a child. At our age we can handle it more or less (though it still hurts) but I remember when I was his age having all kinds of similar tearful discussions with my mom. It took me a long time to realize that people’s prejudice about disability really has nothing to do with me, it is really more a question of deep-seated bad attitudes, sometimes with older relatives and people I would like to think differently of I still encounter it, it is ignorant and hurtful but a part of life.
    As far as what I would say, I think you give a really good response to this little boy. You put it in a really positive way. I would only add (in perhaps a less positive light), certain people will just not get it, don’t let it stop you from doing your best or from doing whatever it is you set your sights on. It is not always true to say you set your own limits (no denying the brain is involved in CP), but certainly don’t let what an ignorant man says make you think poorly of yourself or limit your efforts to improve or just continue walking. You sound like a great person who is doing very well, just keep it up!
    And happy new year Laura, Jo and Monkey Boy!

  2. lifeofthedifferentlyabled says:

    thanks for your wisdom Kate
    and happy 2012 to all

  3. Sarah Tonin says:

    You can’t make a stupid person smart, you can’t make a dull person perceptive. You can’t make a mean person nice, and you can’t make a cruel person kind. You can’t make a liar honest, and you can’t make a selfish person generous.

    In short, you can’t control the behavior of others–you can only control your own behavior.

    Just because someone acts like an a-hole, that’s not your fault. It’s the fault of the person with the poor behavior. The idiot was the guy in the car. He has to live with that and thus is deserving of a bit of backhanded pity for being a self-centered, close-minded sanctimonious jerk.

    It’s never too soon to teach that lesson because it comes in handy down the years. Accept responsibility for your OWN conduct, and don’t let the bad behavior of others get to you because it isn’t about YOU, it is about THEM. You’ll sleep better if you come to this understanding early on. If you don’t come to this conclusion, you’ll spend years feeling like crap over things that people say or do with regard to you–people you don’t like, don’t know, and don’t care about. They shouldn’t have that kind of power over you, and they will only have that power if you give it to them–so just don’t do it.

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