When I look at myself I don’t see my disability, in fact its vastly the opposite I see my abilities first. Sure, there is no ignoring the fact that I have one being that a lot of the things I do, are done in a physically different way then my peers to get the same out come. As much as I wouldn’t trade having cerebral palsy for being able bodied, having a disability comes with its own unique set of challenges like social isolation and a sense of invisibility.
The invisibility cloak and disability
A sense of invisibility is something I deal with regularly I think it stems from the fact that people simply don’t know how to relate to me. I feel this is because the reality is the first thing they notice is my wheelchair I am not sure if this is totally true or if it is merely my personal perception but I feel that people have a tendency to see my wheelchair before taking the time to get to know me. I mean isn’t that like judging a book by its cover?
At some point on this journey, I realized that I was an active bystander in my own life. Essentially, I was sitting back waiting for the world to come to me. That’s when a sense of positivity came into my life. Or, rather a positive situation was born out of a negative one.
Let me explain, when I started this blog I had just lost the best job I had ever had, it was during a recession so not many places were hiring, and I needed a creative outlet. After looking around the net for a site like this, and not finding one, I built this one. Today I feel like that sense of invisibility has lifted in some aspects of my life. Sure, I recognize that people will always be uncomfortable with things they don’t understand. The more comfortable I become within myself however the less I feel that nagging sense of invisibility.
I don’t know if there is any research to correlate the sense social isolation and invisibility to self confidence but I personally think it would be an interesting study.
My question for you is does your disability make you feel invisible? I would be interested in your thoughts. If you like this post sign up for our monthly newsletter in the blue box below
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